Kathryn Bailey looks out the window of her Williamsburg home. Diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease five years ago, Kathryn relies on her husband of 73 years and her granddaughter who lives next door to enable her to stay in the home that she loves.
Kathryn offers Ed a bite of the ice cream bar she opened as they were sitting down for their morning meal. "I guess ice cream for breakfast if she wants it is fine," Ed says.
Kathryn and Ed share a smile as they stand for a photo on the land where they have lived since 1966. They both enjoy their privacy and the wildlife they see despite being a stone's throw from downtown Williamsburg. "We have a mother deer now," Ed says. "She has three babies, and it's so pretty to watch them early in the morning. There'll be a fog coming up and the deer coming up and the geese coming in and my goodness that's pretty."
Ed watches Kathryn from a distance as she sweeps leaves from the carport. "She was always the steadying force of our family. She was the strength of our family. I didn't know how much until this started."
Ed and Kathryn married in April 1952 while Ed was on a two-week leave from the Navy. The couple had been dating since they were in eighth grade.
Kathryn uses the railing to steady herself while Ed follows behind, ensuring that she is safe when her footing may be uneven. Both of them have had several falls, once even falling together. Ed says he feels fortunate that neither have sustained any significant injuries.
Brandi Mullis holds her grandmother Kathryn's hands before she leaves at the end of a visit. Brandi, who lives next door to her grandparents, said the family was aware early on that Kathryn was losing her memory. "There were times I'm sure where it seemed like it was a normal day, she said. "But then sundowners …or she’ll forget something. But we knew."
Kathryn sits alone at the shaded picnic table at her home as the stress of a full day overwhelms her. "I always heard the old saying - the strongest force of water in the world is a woman’s tears. And for me it's true. It just melts my heart when she cries," Ed says.
Ed and Kathryn share a quiet moment at the beauty salon. Ed says Kathryn is his #1 priority and he is dedicated to seeing her through the course of her disease. "I want her to be happy. She deserves that. She earned it."
Ed and Kathryn share a tender moment after breakfast. While Alzheimer's has changed the dynamics of their relationship, the small, familiar gestures formed in 73 years of marriage remain a testament to the love they still share.